Saturday, July 21, 2007

Me time & Ten Rules to Live and Love By

I always go through periods of spending too much time with my friends and taking too little me time. Those periods always end with me feeling out of sync with myself...unfocused...strange and restless. So this weekend I'm taking some me time. I'll sleep lots, find a new cd to like and listen to incessantly (Frank Sinatra this time), drink lots of chai, walk lots, read lots, peoplewatch and shut the f*** up.

Just saw these rules on the Oprah site and I must say they appeal to me lots. I already aspire to live by them...but it was nice to be reminded kidogo kidogo.

  1. Being grateful for what you have zeros in on what is working, which in turn magnetizes more of the same. Where you put your focus is where you direct your creative intention; so if you want abundance, be grateful for the vitality you have now. If you want a soulful relationship, be grateful for the soulful moments. Gratitude is like a seed you plant; it grows more as it is watered and nourished.
  2. Seeing people through the lens of love rather than fear. So often we feel indignant or incensed, but upon closer inspection we will find that we are really afraid. Once we assume people in our lives have core goodness rather than focusing on their "guilt," they will be more free to show us their best, which accelerates the process of shifting our perspective from one of blame and anxiety to one of acceptance and peace.
  3. Staying present simple but effective, be in the moment, live it, breathe it it.
  4. Being willing to forgive yourself and others, and to make amends when necessary. This is an ongoing process of cleanup. We all make mistakes; it's human. But when we hold fast to a grudge it eats away at our sense of peace and serenity.
  5. relaxing when times get tough; assuming that "this too shall pass" allows you to roll with the punches. If you know things will inevitably arise to challenge you, you can be more detached when they do. Problems become worse when we dig in our heels and try to force a solution. By relaxing into whatever struggle arises, we remain flexible and open to inspiration and insight.
  6. Seeing in the dynamic of the relationship the reflection of what you need to learn. The best way to see where we need to work on things is to observe who we are and what we do within the context of a relationship. Any time you recognize your impulse to create distance rather than intimacy, you can make the adjustment and get back on track.
  7. When you don't know how to handle a problem, pray and meditate, surrendering the decisions to Spirit By praying, we ask for help and guidance; by meditating we clear our minds so that the answer will become apparent. By moving aside, we create an opening for God to work miracles in ways we could never imagine.
  8. Honoring the paths your loved one take and allowing them the space to find their own way. Sometimes trying to help where help is not requested, signals a lack of belief in your partner. If you back off and assume someone is strong and intelligent, strength and intelligence are what they will likely find.
  9. Keeping up your personal growth work means you will keep your mind sharp and your awareness keen. Read, study, and attend lectures; don't rest on the laurels of what you think you already know. The moment we think we have it all figured out is the moment things will come crashing down around us. Arrogance leaves no room for intimacy or growth, and is certainly not part of a spiritual curriculum. When you immerse yourself in learning, you will always have new skills and interests to apply to a relationship to make it fun and exciting.
  10. Following the path of your own creativity keeps you attuned to that which moves and inspires you. As you indulge your creative side, you become less dependent on your loved ones to feel whole. Creative energy is the force that breaks new ground. To sustain love, we need to continually fuel whatever inspires us on the deepest level.
Happy living and lovin'